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title = "Things I Learnt The Hard Way - Toxic/Aggressive People Are Not Fixable"
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date = 2019-07-23
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tags = ["en-au", "books", "things i learnt", "personal", "microaggressions", "toxic people"]
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You may think "But I could go to those people and say 'Why are you being
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toxic?' or 'Why are you attacking me?' or even just tell them it's not nice to
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say such things. It would help."
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I don't believe that's the case.
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In the case of toxic people, they just want to see the place burn so they can
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be the hero that saves the day. Microaggressors just want to make your feel
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down 'cause so they could feel superior to you.
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And I don't think they can be easily fixable. That's their modus operandi and
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they will keep doing it so 'cause that's the only way they can see to
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"improve" themselves -- even if there is no real improvement, they are just
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letting everything down so they seem better than the others.
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On the other hand, if you keep [paying attention to the way people react to
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you](/books/things-i-learnt/watch-reactions), you may notice that you may be
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doing this to others. And now the ball is in your park: Do you want to be a
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better person or not?
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