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title = "Things I Learnt The Hard Way - Beware of Toxic People"
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date = 2019-07-23
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tags = ["en-au", "books", "things i learnt", "personal", "toxic people"]
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You'll find people that, even if they don't small talk you, they will bad
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mouth everything else -- even some other people -- openly.
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Toxic people love drama. They love to put people down. They love to point
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mistakes made by others -- but never by themselves. Some of them actually do
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that to make themselves look better in the eyes of the upper management.
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Not totally toxic, but I did work with people who would never answer an email
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unless the manager was in the discussion. Another person would always claims
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his team did everything they could, even putting himself at the disposal of
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the manager to solve any issues, and that the problem was not related to their
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work -- which we proved three times it was.
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You need to stay away from those people. They will harm in ways you can figure
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out immediately. Their attitude towards other (and maybe even yourself) will
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drive you so down you'll waste more time wondering what you did wrong than
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doing your job.
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One thing to take a lot of care: Even if it is not your intention, you may not
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realize that you may be seen as toxic 'cause [you don't understand yourself
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yet](/books/things-i-learnt/learn-about-yourself) and the way [people react to
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you](/books/things-i-learnt/watch-reactions).
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