diff --git a/content/books/things-i-learnt/_index.md b/content/books/things-i-learnt/_index.md index 0498ed8..6e9ca1c 100644 --- a/content/books/things-i-learnt/_index.md +++ b/content/books/things-i-learnt/_index.md @@ -83,3 +83,4 @@ template = "section-contentless.html" * [Pay Attention On How People React To You](watch-reactions) * [Beware of Toxic People](toxic-people) * [Beware of Microaggressions](microaggressions) + * [Toxic/Aggressive People Are Not Fixable -- Unless It's You](fixable) diff --git a/content/books/things-i-learnt/fixable/index.md b/content/books/things-i-learnt/fixable/index.md new file mode 100644 index 0000000..32ab831 --- /dev/null +++ b/content/books/things-i-learnt/fixable/index.md @@ -0,0 +1,31 @@ ++++ +title = "Things I Learnt The Hard Way - Toxic/Aggressive People Are Not Fixable" +date = 2019-07-23 + +[taxonomies] +tags = ["en-au", "books", "things i learnt", "personal", "microaggressions", "toxic people"] ++++ + +You may think "But I could go to those people and say 'Why are you being +toxic?' or 'Why are you attacking me?' or even just tell them it's not nice to +say such things. It would help." + +I don't believe that's the case. + + + +In the case of toxic people, they just want to see the place burn so they can +be the hero that saves the day. Microaggressors just want to make your feel +down 'cause so they could feel superior to you. + +And I don't think they can be easily fixable. That's their modus operandi and +they will keep doing it so 'cause that's the only way they can see to +"improve" themselves -- even if there is no real improvement, they are just +letting everything down so they seem better than the others. + +On the other hand, if you keep [paying attention to the way people react to +you](/books/things-i-learnt/watch-reactions), you may notice that you may be +doing this to others. And now the ball is in your park: Do you want to be a +better person or not? + +{{ chapters(prev_chapter_link="/books/things-i-learnt/microaggressions", prev_chapter_title="Beware of Microaggressions") }} diff --git a/content/books/things-i-learnt/microaggressions/index.md b/content/books/things-i-learnt/microaggressions/index.md index b603fc6..32b6cab 100644 --- a/content/books/things-i-learnt/microaggressions/index.md +++ b/content/books/things-i-learnt/microaggressions/index.md @@ -52,4 +52,4 @@ Better just stay away and avoid contact if possible. [^3]: And I do wish you have a HR department that understand microaggressions. -{{ chapters(prev_chapter_link="/books/things-i-learnt/toxic-people", prev_chapter_title="Beware of Toxic People") }} +{{ chapters(prev_chapter_link="/books/things-i-learnt/toxic-people", prev_chapter_title="Beware of Toxic People", next_chapter_link="/books/things-i-learnt/fixable", next_chapter_title="Toxic/Aggressive People Are Fixable") }}