New chapter: What how people react to you

content/books/things-i-learnt/_index.md

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 	* [Don't Tell It's Done When It's Not](not-done)
 	* [People Get Upset About Code And Architecture Quality 'Cause They Care](people-care)
 	* [You'll Learn About Yourself The Hard Way](learn-about-yourself)
+	* [Pay Attention On How People React To You](watch-reactions)

content/books/things-i-learnt/learn-about-yourself/index.md

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 vocal and friendlier to the higher-ups. But, again, I took it as true, and did
 my best to work on those problems.
 
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content/books/things-i-learnt/watch-reactions/index.md

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+title = "Things I Learnt The Hard Way - Pay Attention On How People React To You"
+date = 2019-07-19
+
+[taxonomies]
+tags = ["en-au", "books", "things i learnt", "personal", "reactions"]
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+
+One way you can learn about yourself is to pay attention on how people react
+to your actions.
+
+<!-- more -->
+
+I have a "angry man resting face", which means that, even when I'm in a null
+mood, it looks like I'm angry.
+
+I already had one meeting and which I started to ask something and noticed
+that the other person move a bit back. That's when I realized that didn't
+sound exactly how I meant. I had to add "I'm not saying what you're proposing
+is wrong, I'm just confused."
+
+Also, I got a manager once come up with "I thought you were _the_ serious
+person... till you suddenly started singing in the middle of a meeting"[^1].
+
+You need to keep an eye on this. How is people reacting to your reactions? Are
+they opening themselves to you or are they closing?
+
+[^1]: I have this "serious" problem that, depending on the word someone says,
+  I recall some lyrics and suddenly start singing it.
+
+{{ chapters(prev_chapter_link="/books/things-i-learnt/learn-about-yourself", prev_chapter_title="You'll Learn About Yourself The Hard Way") }}