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+++ title = "Things I Learnt The Hard Way - Pay Attention On How People React To You" date = 2019-07-19
[taxonomies] tags = ["books", "things i learnt", "personal", "reactions"] +++
One way you can learn about yourself is to pay attention on how people react to your actions.
I have a "angry man resting face", which means that, even when I'm in a null mood, it looks like I'm angry.
I already had one meeting and which I started to ask something and noticed that the other person move a bit back. That's when I realized that didn't sound exactly how I meant. I had to add "I'm not saying what you're proposing is wrong, I'm just confused."
Also, I got a manager once come up with "I thought you were the serious person... till you suddenly started singing in the middle of a meeting"1.
You need to keep an eye on this. How is people reacting to your reactions? Are they opening themselves to you or are they closing?
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I have this "serious" problem that, depending on the word someone says, I recall some lyrics and suddenly start singing it. ↩︎