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<a href="https://blog.juliobiason.me"><h1>Julio Biason .Me 4.3</h1></a> |
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<p class="lead">Old school dev living in a 2.0 dev world</p> |
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<h1 class="post-title">Things I Learnt The Hard Way - Toxic/Aggressive People Are Not Fixable</h1> |
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2019-07-23 |
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<a href="https://blog.juliobiason.me/tags/books/">#books</a> |
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<a href="https://blog.juliobiason.me/tags/things-i-learnt/">#things i learnt</a> |
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<a href="https://blog.juliobiason.me/tags/personal/">#personal</a> |
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<a href="https://blog.juliobiason.me/tags/microaggressions/">#microaggressions</a> |
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<p>You may think "But I could go to those people and say 'Why are you being |
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toxic?' or 'Why are you attacking me?' or even just tell them it's not nice to |
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say such things. It would help."</p> |
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<p>I don't believe that's the case.</p> |
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<p>In the case of toxic people, they just want to see the place burn so they can |
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be the hero that saves the day. Microaggressors just want to make your feel |
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down 'cause so they could feel superior to you.</p> |
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<p>And I don't think they can be easily fixable. That's their modus operandi and |
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they will keep doing it so 'cause that's the only way they can see to |
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"improve" themselves -- even if there is no real improvement, they are just |
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letting everything down so they seem better than the others.</p> |
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<p>On the other hand, if you keep <a href="/books/things-i-learnt/watch-reactions">paying attention to the way people react to |
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you</a>, you may notice that you may be |
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doing this to others. And now the ball is in your park: Do you want to be a |
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better person or not?</p> |
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