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<a href="https://blog.juliobiason.me"><h1>Julio Biason .Me 4.3</h1></a> |
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<p class="lead">Old school dev living in a 2.0 dev world</p> |
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<h1 class="post-title">Things I Learnt The Hard Way - You'll Learn About Yourself The Hard Way</h1> |
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2019-07-19 |
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<a href="https://blog.juliobiason.me/tags/books/">#books</a> |
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<a href="https://blog.juliobiason.me/tags/things-i-learnt/">#things i learnt</a> |
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<a href="https://blog.juliobiason.me/tags/personal/">#personal</a> |
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<a href="https://blog.juliobiason.me/tags/burn-out/">#burn out</a> |
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<p>We get frustrated with code that doesn't compile. We get angry with customers |
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asking things back and forth. We get upset when upper management can't make up |
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its mind. And we lash out on others when that happens.</p> |
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<p>Unfortunately, that's the way you'll learn about yourself. You'll learn to |
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figure out when you get frustrated. You'll learn how you can keep getting |
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attacked by others -- even micro-aggressions -- but, without realizing, at |
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some point you'll suddenly burst into an counter-attack that may seem out of |
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proportion.</p> |
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<p>The worst part of it all? Very few people will tell you what you're doing |
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before it's too late -- you'll get in trouble way before you could actually |
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understand what you were doing.</p> |
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<p>But, again, you'll get in trouble.</p> |
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<p>And you <em>must</em> learn about these events. Take the feedback as true, even if |
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you don't agree with it. I had my falls, and I always took it as something I |
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need to improve, even if later I said to my psychologist that I thought it was |
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unfair and biased -- mostly 'cause I'm the quiet guy that always took the |
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blows and never complained about, and people taking the flak from me were more |
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vocal and friendlier to the higher-ups. But, again, I took it as true, and did |
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my best to work on those problems.</p> |
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