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<a href="https://blog.juliobiason.me"><h1>Julio Biason .Me 4.3</h1></a>
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<p class="lead">Old school dev living in a 2.0 dev world</p>
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<h1 class="post-title">Things I Learnt The Hard Way - Toxic/Aggressive People Are Not Fixable</h1>
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2019-07-23
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<a href="https://blog.juliobiason.me/tags/books/">#books</a>
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<a href="https://blog.juliobiason.me/tags/things-i-learnt/">#things i learnt</a>
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<a href="https://blog.juliobiason.me/tags/personal/">#personal</a>
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<a href="https://blog.juliobiason.me/tags/microaggressions/">#microaggressions</a>
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<a href="https://blog.juliobiason.me/tags/toxic-people/">#toxic people</a>
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<p>You may think "But I could go to those people and say 'Why are you being
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toxic?' or 'Why are you attacking me?' or even just tell them it's not nice to
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say such things. It would help."</p>
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<p>I don't believe that's the case.</p>
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<p>In the case of toxic people, they just want to see the place burn so they can
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be the hero that saves the day. Microaggressors just want to make your feel
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down 'cause so they could feel superior to you.</p>
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<p>And I don't think they can be easily fixable. That's their modus operandi and
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they will keep doing it so 'cause that's the only way they can see to
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"improve" themselves -- even if there is no real improvement, they are just
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letting everything down so they seem better than the others.</p>
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<p>On the other hand, if you keep <a href="/books/things-i-learnt/watch-reactions">paying attention to the way people react to
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you</a>, you may notice that you may be
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doing this to others. And now the ball is in your park: Do you want to be a
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better person or not?</p>
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<< <a href="/books/things-i-learnt/microaggressions">Beware of Microaggressions</a>
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<a href="/books/things-i-learnt/quit">Realize When It's Time To Quit</a> >>
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