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 	* [Learn To Say No](say-no)
 	* [Take Responsibility For The Use Of Your Code](responsible-code)
 	* [Don't Tell It's Done When It's Not](not-done)
+	* [People Get Upset About Code And Architecture Quality 'Cause They Care](people-care)
+	* [You'll Learn About Yourself The Hard Way](learn-about-yourself)
+	* [Pay Attention On How People React To You](watch-reactions)

content/books/things-i-learnt/learn-about-yourself/index.md

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+title = "Things I Learnt The Hard Way - You'll Learn About Yourself The Hard Way"
+date = 2019-07-19
+
+[taxonomies]
+tags = ["en-au", "books", "things i learnt", "personal", "burn out"]
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+
+We get frustrated with code that doesn't compile. We get angry with customers
+asking things back and forth. We get upset when upper management can't make up
+its mind. And we lash out on others when that happens.
+
+<!-- more -->
+
+Unfortunately, that's the way you'll learn about yourself. You'll learn to
+figure out when you get frustrated. You'll learn how you can keep getting
+attacked by others -- even micro-aggressions -- but, without realizing, at
+some point you'll suddenly burst into an counter-attack that may seem out of
+proportion.
+
+The worst part of it all? Very few people will tell you what you're doing
+before it's too late -- you'll get in trouble way before you could actually
+understand what you were doing.
+
+But, again, you'll get in trouble.
+
+And you _must_ learn about these events. Take the feedback as true, even if
+you don't agree with it. I had my falls, and I always took it as something I
+need to improve, even if later I said to my psychologist that I thought it was
+unfair and biased -- mostly 'cause I'm the quiet guy that always took the
+blows and never complained about, and people taking the flak from me were more
+vocal and friendlier to the higher-ups. But, again, I took it as true, and did
+my best to work on those problems.
+
+{{ chapters(prev_chapter_link="/books/things-i-learnt/people-care", prev_chapter_title="You'll Learn About Yourself The Hard Way", next_chapter_link="/books/things-i-learnt/watch-reactions", next_chapter_title="Pay Attention On How People React To You") }}

content/books/things-i-learnt/not-done/index.md

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 and I think it may give us a headache in the future", they will understand. So
 be clear and transparent about your work.
 
-{{ chapters(prev_chapter_link="/books/things-i-learnt/responsible-code", prev_chapter_title="Take Responsibility For The Use Of Your Code") }}
+{{ chapters(prev_chapter_link="/books/things-i-learnt/responsible-code", prev_chapter_title="Take Responsibility For The Use Of Your Code", next_chapter_link="/books/things-i-learnt/people-care", next_chapter_title="People Get Upset About Code And Architecture Quality 'Cause They Care") }}

content/books/things-i-learnt/people-care/index.md

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+title = "Things I Learnt The Hard Way - People Get Upset About Code And Architecture Quality 'Cause They Care"
+date = 2019-07-19
+
+[taxonomies]
+tags = ["en-au", "books", "things i learnt", "personal", "care"]
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+
+At some point, you'll describe some solution/decision about some piece of
+code or some architectural design and people will seem annoyed/pissed about
+it.  When people care about a product/code, they do that.
+
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+
+Or maybe _you_ will get annoyed/pissed.
+
+I think one of the nicest compliments I ever got was "You're annoying 'cause
+you care" when we left a meeting in which we decided to cut corners and do
+things halfway to beat some deadline -- or just 'cause people were not in the
+mood to do things in a more complete way.
+
+{{ chapters(prev_chapter_link="/books/things-i-learnt/not-done", prev_chapter_title="People Get Upset About Code And Architecture Quality 'Cause They Care", next_chapter_link="/books/things-i-learnt/learn-about-yourself", next_chapter_title="You'll Learn About Yourself The Hard Way") }}

content/books/things-i-learnt/watch-reactions/index.md

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+title = "Things I Learnt The Hard Way - Pay Attention On How People React To You"
+date = 2019-07-19
+
+[taxonomies]
+tags = ["en-au", "books", "things i learnt", "personal", "reactions"]
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+
+One way you can learn about yourself is to pay attention on how people react
+to your actions.
+
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+
+I have a "angry man resting face", which means that, even when I'm in a null
+mood, it looks like I'm angry.
+
+I already had one meeting and which I started to ask something and noticed
+that the other person move a bit back. That's when I realized that didn't
+sound exactly how I meant. I had to add "I'm not saying what you're proposing
+is wrong, I'm just confused."
+
+Also, I got a manager once come up with "I thought you were _the_ serious
+person... till you suddenly started singing in the middle of a meeting"[^1].
+
+You need to keep an eye on this. How is people reacting to your reactions? Are
+they opening themselves to you or are they closing?
+
+[^1]: I have this "serious" problem that, depending on the word someone says,
+  I recall some lyrics and suddenly start singing it.
+
+{{ chapters(prev_chapter_link="/books/things-i-learnt/learn-about-yourself", prev_chapter_title="You'll Learn About Yourself The Hard Way") }}